예를 들면 '너 공연하는 거 보게 돼서 너무 좋았어', '늘 너의 공연을 와서 보고 싶었는데, 무대에서 널 보는게 너무 즐거웠어'
이 말들은 모두 진실이다.
그리고 다음날 상황이 정리되고 감정이 내려온다음
친구에게 전화를 걸어 '공연에 대해 어떻게 생각했는지 말해줘도 돼?' 물어보고
그리고 친구가 좋다고 동의한다면
그때 비로소 공연에 대한 나의 생각과 뭐가 별로였는지
냉정하게 이야기 하면 되는 것이다.
(마치 미네르바의 부엉이는 황혼에 나는 것처럼)
만약 공연 끝난 직후에 이야기 했다면
친구에게 정말로 상처가 되었을 것이다.
진실은 중요하지만 그 진실의 전달 타이밍은 더 중요하다.
메시지를 전달하기 위한 상황이 더 좋을 때
그리고 상황이 안 좋다면 다른 진실을 사용해서
감정을 다치지 않고 더 나은 길로 갈 수 있다.
Truth does not need to be cruel.
This means that there is no need to hurt others by using the truth as an excuse.
Let's think about the word "timing."
For example, if you go to a concert or performance that your friend is giving,
even if you think it was so bad that it was difficult to listen to and watch to the end,
if your friend comes out of the venue as he is, still in costume and makeup, and asks, "How was the concert?"
You should judge that it is not a good time and place at the moment.
This is because your friend is in a state of extreme adrenaline after finishing the performance,
and so at this point, it is not the time to evaluate how bad the performance was objectively.
At that time, don't answer the question directly, but tell a different kind of truth.
For example, "I'm so glad I got to see you perform," or "I've always wanted to come and see your performance, and it was so enjoyable to see you on stage."
All of these statements are true.
And then the next day, after the situation has been sorted out and emotions have subsided,
call your friend and ask, "Can I tell you what I thought about the performance?"
And if your friend agrees, then you can finally tell them your thoughts on the performance and what you didn't like about it.
(Just as Minerva's owl flies at dusk.)
If you had told them right after the performance,
it would have really hurt your friend.
Truth is important, but the timing of delivering that truth is more important.
When the situation is better for conveying the message,
and if the situation is not good, use other truths to
avoid hurting feelings and go on a better path.